Ways to Make Your Fall In Love With You Maybe Again

3 Ways to Make Him Fall For You

Have you ever found yourself falling for a man you were dating and wondered if he was feeling the same way? Did you find yourself trying to prove what a great catch you are by being sweeter, funnier and smarter in hopes that he would fall in love with you? Focusing on what a man wants and ingratiating yourself in this way may feel like the natural thing to do, but it’s the worst way to try to make a man feel romantic love for you.

Love isn’t a reasonable emotion – and being “nice” and “understanding” and “a good sport” won’t get you where you want to go. Here are some ways that will:

Tip#1: Don’t give a man more than he gives you.

Love, and inspiring a man to fall in love with you forever, is all about you being able to receive love.

Most of us only know how to give. We give for lots of reasons – because we’re taught that’s the way to get to a man’s heart (it isn’t) because we see other women do it, and because deep down, it feels uncomfortable and scary to be vulnerable enough to really get love.

“A man is actually turned off when he gets more from you than he gives.”

A man is actually turned off when he gets more from you than he gives. When you shower him with affection, attention, dinners, gifts, and always go out of your way to drive to his place, it makes him think of you as a mother or a friend instead of inspiring his emotional desire for you.

Tip #2: Don’t give away exclusivity if he hasn’t yet committed.

We become totally, emotionally invested in a man when we’re exclusive with him because he has all our time and attention. There’s no way we can stop wondering about where the relationship is going. But the more we think about it and talk about it, the more we push a man away.

3 Ways to Make Him Fall For You

When you can think of it in these terms, it’s easier to keep your options open and keep your personal power in the relationship. Rather than talking about the relationship or threatening him with ultimatums, you can continue to keep your options open by dating other men. This way, you keep your class, your power, your boundaries, and he has to work to get you!

Tip#3: Don’t give him gifts, make him dinner or pay for dates.

Yes, this sounds unfair, and yet, who pays is often the difference in his mind between friends hanging out together and a “date.”

If a man complains about paying for everything, let him know you don’t care what you do, you feel great being with him, and you don’t want to pay. Walking, hanging out in bookstores, having a picnic in a park can all be fun, romantic ways to get close to a man.

(And forget about cooking dinner, or trying to make dating “reciprocal.” A bowl of popcorn and something to drink is fine.)

When you give a man gifts, give him all your attention and energy, and give MORE than you receive, you’re OVERFUNCTIONING.

Overfunctioning is doing more than your fair share and stepping up to rescue a man because you know you can do a better job. It’s arriving from your masculine energy. It feels aggressive and forward to a man. And it’s totally unattractive to him.


Rituals become habit become unconditional statements of love. Whats your ritual?

Romance Routine

A love ritual is something you do that is part of an established routine. The couples that take the time to create a love ritual find their relationship more loving and full of romance. If you’ve been looking for a way to create a new spark in your relationship, a love ritual might be just the idea for you.
Create a lasting ritual to help keep romance a permanent part of your relationship.

Love Rituals

If this is something you’d like to try, the task of finding the perfect love ritual should be fairly easy. You can do anything from something as common as watching a favorite T.V. show at a set time every week to a more elaborate idea of reserving the day of the week you met as a special, all-out date night. Your options are truly endless! For more creative, ritual ideas, read the love rituals below that other Lovingyou.com couples are doing right now!

Everyday Rituals

“Every time we pass by or even get close to each other, we kiss and hug to tell each other how we are grateful we are that we met.” -Candace Martin

“Every single night we make sure we cuddle on the couch together, make love anywhere and everywhere in the house, and then shower together and fall asleep in each other’s arms. I love it!” -Tiana

“We always go to bed earlier than we need too, light candles and just talk, or whatever comes to mind!” -Suzanne

“Every night before my boyfriend and I go to bed, we ask if we have had our hug today. If not, we give each other a great big hug and a kiss, and tell each other ‘I love you’ and I fall asleep in his arms.” -Anonymous

“We make sure we talk to each other every night before we go to sleep.” -Anonymous

“My boyfriend and I enjoy watching the TV show “Friends” together. No matter what we are doing in our apartment, surfing the net or reading a book, we both stop at 6:30 and watch our TV show together. It’s great to have something we can laugh at together.” -Cori

“We pray every night together!” -Brooke

“Matt and I tape All my Children and watch it together every night after we come home from work. We also like to cook together, and we talk and ask how each other’s day went. To me, it’s extra special when we do things together. It creates memories and closer ties to each other.” -Megan

“We give each other cute love quotes every morning.” -Maha

“We take a midnight swim in the pool in the nude every night before bed.” -Donna

Weekly Rituals

“Every Friday night, my partner and I stay out and cuddle and look at the stars together while I kiss his neck.” -Holly

“We meet every Sunday (when both of us are free) at her apartment and spend the whole day together. We talk, go out to movies or dinners, cuddle up in front of the TV, and have fabulous sex at night. These love rituals keep the enthusiasm levels high and keep our relationship alive and roaring.” -Sanmon

“He doesn’t like to watch Dharma and Greg, but every Tuesday night he will cuddle up with me in bed and watch it with me.” -Texasgirl

“Even though it’s not always weekly, my husband and I love Barnes & Nobles bookstore. We take our son to story time and always get one of their Frappucinos. I had to go yesterday without him, so I skipped the Frap. It just wasn’t the same without him.” -Pab

“We first started dating on a Tuesday night, so we call it ‘Special Tuesday.’ This is a night for treating each other to a candlelight dinner, watching a movie or walking on the beach.” -Alvern

“We have been married almost 43 years. We spend each evening before dinner–out on the patio listening to our old favorites (music of the fifties) with a martini or a lovely bottle of wine. We TALK a lot. Dinner follows. Then, what ever will be, will be. You can only imagine. We love each other to pieces.” -Mary

“We spend every Sunday together, and we rent movies and just cuddle on the couch.” -Summer Santagto

“We take a walk every weekend.” -Gina

“My lover and I make it a habit to sit down together every Saturday and have a lovely breakfast for two. Both of us contribute to it. He makes the coffee and gets the juice, sets the table and I cook. No newspapers are allowed at the table and no television. We usually play something classical on the CD player. Breakfast usually takes about 2 and a half hours. Quality time with quality refreshments and quality music. We find it strengthens the bonds between us and gets us in the right mood for facing the rest of the world.” -Trish

“We always leave Sundays for us. Sometimes we do no more than watch TV all day. Whatever we do it’s our day.” -Lisa

Bedtime Rituals

“We say ‘I Love You’ before going to sleep each night and every morning!” -Adam Olgin

“Every night before we go to bed, we tell each other our goodnight message, ‘Goodnight, sleep tight, don’t let the bed bugs bite, sweet dreams, I love you!” -In Love

“My sweetie says goodnight to me a certain way every single night. His pet name for me is Vikkybear. He says, ‘Goodnight my little Vikkybear, I hope you have sweet, sweet dreams.’ Then, he kisses me and hugs me. It’s something I look forward to every night. Even when he was away for a week, he called me every night to say that to me.” -Vikky

“Every night before we go to sleep, he kisses my hand. To me it is a sign of total respect and love.” -Ashley

Long Distance Rituals

“My boyfriend and I always make sure to call one another before we go to sleep at night. It’s a way for us to end the day knowing that one another is safe and tucked tight into bed. We also make sure that we never go to bed angry at each other. It’s better to talk it out than to drag it out till the next day.” -Laciebug

“My love ritual is having a phone date at 9:00pm every night until our voices start to crack early in the morning. That way we are the last person on each other’s mind.” -Tiey Lopez

“Our ritual is every night right before we go to bed, we send each other what we call “sweet stuff.” It’s just a little message telling the other how much we love them, how much we enjoyed the time we had together, and give each other wishes of a good night, and sweet dreams and pleasant day to come. It’s seems weird now, but I’m so used to having them, that I can have trouble sleeping on nights when they aren’t possible.” -Jen

Random Rituals

“Take a bath together.” -Woods

“When I come home after a great night with my honey, I flash my porch light three times before he drives off. (It means I LOVE YOU.) Then, he flashes his car lights 4 times to say ‘I LOVE YOU MORE!'” -Brittni

“We give each other a really good massage at least once a month.” -Loretta

“Since we live apart, whenever he takes me home he always opens the car door for me and then waits for me to get in. I smile at him until he shuts the door, even if it’s freezing cold or raining.” -Danielle


Leave me a comment on what your rituals are or would be. If you don’t have any tell me one you would like to have.

Reignite the passion

Bring Sexy Back

Remember when you wanted nothing more than naked time with your man – all the time?


The good old days

You remember the passion of early on in your relationship… spending all day long, simmering with longing… looking forward to nightfall when you could see your mate and rip his clothes off.

Those were the days. Now, if you want to get hot, you lean against the stove.

“Women especially shut down sexually after being with a man over time because their heart gets wounded and the man doesn’t know how to heal it. A woman’s heart is connected to her womb. If her heart is wounded, it will close. If her heart is closed…her legs are closed,” says couples counselor Jane Fendelman, MC (www.JaneFendelman.com). She supports the use of tantric sex and the ancient healing arts in bridging the gap.

Show your love

Staying sexy and keeping the romance alive is intrinsic to making it last. Nicole Matthias, president of badfun.com, says some ideas to resuscitate romance are:

  • Leave a love note– Leaving a note for your love is a thoughtful and easy way to let them know that you’re thinking about them. Just leave a little note on the bathroom mirror, refrigerator, in their briefcase, etc that says something sweet such as “Have a good day!” or “I can’t wait to see you tonight” or even “Will be thinking of you today.”  This unexpected find can not only brighten their day but remind them that you love them.
  • Surprise dinner – Instead of picking up takeout on the way home, plan to make their favorite meal and eat it with the TV off! Light candles and set the table with the good china and get a nice bottle of wine. The time you put into it is what makes it special.
  • Send an e-card – There are lots of sites that offer free e-cards and all it takes is a few minutes during your lunch break to pick one, personalize it and send it off. It’s a welcomed interruption to their gazillion junk mail, conference reminder emails and customer emails.
  • Lingerie fashion show – You can do it all in one night or for an entire week. Ladies, you can try on lingerie and do a little runway walk or sexy dance. Keep changing outfits while he admires your body in each one. Add some edibles into the mix for a few outfits or special hands on feature. Gentleman: Pick out some lingerie items that you want to see her in and have her model them for you. We want to know what you like!
  • Sexual adventure – Instead of leaving Hershey kisses in the shape of a heart on the bed, try chocolate body topping. Make it romantic and sexy by taking your time licking it off their body from top to bottom. When you spend time adoring their body you let them know that you truly care about them and their pleasure.
  • Don’t wait – Don’t wait for a special occasion to do something romantic. It’s almost expected and therefore loses some of its meaning. You want to surprise them with something small but thoughtful that expresses your love in a different way than usual. Reminders of your feelings for your lover won’t go unappreciated!
  • Bring In some friends- I’m talking about sexual enhancers, adult toys or massage oils. Sometimes adding something a little extra can cause you to linger on your lover’s hot spots a little longer. There are a number of products that are great for couples.  I recommend a vibrating erection ring.  It helps him to last longer while providing her with maximum pleasure.

Man and Woman KissingThe relationship is a person, too…

Lisa Steadman, a relationship journalist for The Breakup Chronicles, http://www.BreakupChronicles.com and author of It’s a Breakup Not a Breakdown says: “Whether you’re married for years, have children, and/or just feel the spark is waning, it’s important to reignite that spark. You may need a shift in thinking. First, start thinking of your relationship as a third party. You, your partner, and the relationship are all active members of the same triangle. Not only do you and your partner have needs, but your relationship has needs. If you neglect it, you lose the spark.”

How do you reclaim the spark? She advises: “Make time for slowing down, i.e. turn the TV off, set aside time to not talk about the kids, the bills, the debt, work. Talk to the other person about them. Light candles, listen to soft music, touch without being sexual. Just BE together. Kiss. Be kind, nurturing. Give back rubs. Go on a date. Invite play into the bedroom. Whether that’s cuddling, toys, sexy lingerie, whatever works for both of you. Don’t always make this time about sex. Sometimes in order to get back to sex, you need to first get back to loving and being loved as a couple. Stimulate your senses to stimulate the sexual/sensual appetite.”

How men are like puppies

“In a way, men sometimes are like cute pet puppies. A man would much rather roll around in the mud or dig holes in the yard than spend time making his relationship better,” Dr. McClary says. “Now I am not saying men are like dogs or that they should come panting when you whistle. I am saying that many lessons about living with men can be learned from observing ever-faithful canine companions. All obedience schools are based on the reward system, so it’s probably worth applying some of their basic principles.”

Dr. McClary also has seven tips to keeping romance alive:

  • Have a weekly date night. Take turns deciding what each of you would like to do each time. Have fun being together, just the two of you, for a few hours each week. Go out to eat, on a picnic, for a walk, play miniature golf, to the office and fool around, go bowling, and on and on.
  • Drop it! Let go of all the past crap he’s put you through. Start fresh, right now. Begin making new memories. Discover each other all over again. After all, he’s dating a new, wonderful, wild woman. Let the woman be fully present on your “dates.”
  • Be passionate! No more little pecks on the check, little shoulder top hugs, or weak “love ya’s.” Come on you empowered woman! Go the distance. At least once a day, kiss him like you really mean it. When you hug each other, make sure you give a full-blown, juicy, full body bear hug (stiffness or tense hugging does not count). When he says “love ya,” stop what you are doing, walk over to him, look him in the eyes, and say “I love you, too. I mean I really do love you!” Enjoy the feelings this invokes
  • Go the extra mile. Leave love notes, send cards, take him out to dinner, dance with him or for him, make him lemonade and cookies — do something a little extra, just for him, and just for the heck of it.
  • Notice him. When he comes home, stop for a minute and welcome him home. If he’s home before you, acknowledge his presence in a loving way. Remember, you are healed and whole now. This will make you feel good, like you are giving him the precious gift of being loved by you.
  • Take vacations together. Make sure that at least one vacation, even if just for a weekend or one full night, is just for the two of you.
  • When you feel you and your man have finally developed Real Love, get married again.Jim and I went to Las Vegas to the Mission of the Bells chapel. It was great. The re-marriage package included a limo with a bar and TV (I had to promptly confiscate the remote), the church service, minister, music, flowers, and champagne. It was perfect! All that was missing was an Elvis impersonator to “give me away!” We honeymooned at Caesar’s Palace. The best part was that my ever-awakening husband planned every bit of this. A Real Love marriage, and honeymoon — aah, life doesn’t get much better than that.

    It's your man do him when you want him

What do fear and sex have in common?

Terri Orbuch, PhD, better known as television and radio’s Love Doctor (drterrithelovedoctor.com), who specializes in marriage, modern dating, love, and sex, offers the following tips:

  • Add a new or exciting element into your life. When your marital sex life is in the doldrums, an effective remedy is get you and your partner excited–out of bed. This could be anything from skiing to taking a cooking class to going on a mystery date. It transmits the subliminal message of freshness, energy, and unpredictability–just what you want in the sack.
  • Be afraid–be very afraid. Plan an activity that scares the living daylights out of you and your partner. Go on a roller coaster ride or see a scary movie. Studies show that activities producing fear and excitement produce hormones associated with sexual arousal.
  • Practice small endearments. Make an effort to kiss him when you see him. Hold hands when you go out. Snuggle while you watch TV. Studies show that people feel more connected to their partners when they hold hands, hug, kiss, and cuddle. This closeness leads to more and better sex.
  • Surprise him with an erotic email. Send your partner a sexy email or give him a call out of the blue in the middle of the day. Showing your guy that you’re hot for him, even during your busy day, is very exciting to males.
  • Reacquaint yourselves. When was the last time you two talked about something other than work and family? Ask him about his dreams. Ask him to tell you about his favorite pre-marriage vacation. Get to know him again just like you did on your first dates. It will work wonders on your love life.
  • Get a tune-up. There’s nothing wrong with relationship workshops. In fact, there are so many fun ones these days that you and your guy might just want to make it an annual event. The whole point of these events is to get two people loving again. Take a tip or two from pros–that’s what they’re good at. You change your oil every 5,000 miles, don’t you? Why not put a little effort into your sex life and relationship?

Help him stay in love with you

Often the hardest aspect is trying to understand what the man in our life is thinking. Michael French, author of WHY MEN FALL OUT OF LOVE: What Every Woman Needs to Understand, explains why men fall out of love, and offers tips on how to bring some excitement back into any marriage or relationship.   In his book, French presents a fascinating look at men’s deepest feelings, identifying the key issues that can unravel even the tightest bonds, and has even identified the four top relationship busters:

  • Loss of intimacy – when a man feels rejected by his partner;
  • The quest for validation – which stems from low self-esteem, and a man’s continual search for approval and acceptance;
  • The perfection impulse – the tendency of men to mask low self-esteem with achievement;
  • The fading of attraction – when men tell their partners they’re no longer attracted to them, they’re masking the real reason for their loss of interest – that they’re not getting enough love.

“Libido is like a muscle — use it or lose it! That means you have to make a habit of lovemaking. The more you do it — the more you’ll feel like doing it,” says Jennifer Oikle, Ph.D, a psychologist who specializes in relationship coaching. So, ladies, you heard the doctor, go out and get some “exercise.”

If that fails, there’s always chocolate.

10 Things guys want from women

Universal Truths About What Men Look For

You may think that a man’s mind isn’t that complex in comparison with your own, but sometimes we experience those strange things you women call “emotions,” too. (Yep, it’s true.) So here, very plain and simple (kinda like our minds) are 10 little things we want from you, but are often too darn stubborn to ask for.

what men want from women


Admit it — you saw this one coming. Yes, we want sex. Often. In fact, just about any time and any place. But there’s more to it than just sex. We also like other signs of your affection, so hold hands with us or give us a spontaneous hug.

2Honest reactions

Don’t fake it with us. We can tell when you do.


Men want to be complimented just as much as women do. When we look good, tell us.


Make us laugh! A sense of humor is a wonderful thing, and a woman with a good one is extremely appealing.


We want you to accept us as we are, not think of us as someone you can renovate. Yes, we have faults — but look past them. We want you to accept us for the men we already are and are working to become.


There’s no real basis for a relationship without honesty, and it starts when we first meet. If you’re truly interested, don’t start out playing hard-to-get.


Don’t crowd us. Men like time and space with their friends, and even time alone. Women who require men to spend every minute with them need to get a life of their own.


Go ahead and express yourself. Your man may not always agree with you, but it probably makes him proud that you can stand up for yourself. Strong women are sexy!


If you love your man, believe in his dreams as much as he believes in yours. Don’t just believe support him you never know where it may lead.


If you can’t trust each other, the relationship is doomed. Take his word for it and don’t constantly check up on him or try to trick him. Trust is respect, and both parties in a relationship deserve to be respected.



A friend of mine, we will call her Betty, an attractive brunette in her late twenties, was telling me of this incident. A week ago she happened to run into Jim, a cute guy she’d dated in college. They’d dated for a couple of years, but then things didn’t work out. They’d ended the relationship on a friendly note and were happy to run into each other now. They decided to catch up over a drink and talk about old times. They spent a fun evening together, during which time Betty learnt that Jim was in a committed, live-in relationship with his girlfriend of five years, Sarah, and was planning to get engaged soon. At some point in the evening, he said he’d call his girlfriend to let her know he’d be late and Betty happened to overhear their conversation.


“Hey,” Jim said. “How was your day? Just called to tell you I’ll be home a little late today. Had to discuss some plans with a client and thought we’d do it over a drink. See you in a bit.”


Is he Guilty?

While Betty didn’t want to act like she’d been eavesdropping, she couldn’t help but ask Jim why he’d deliberately lied. Jim was unrepentant about it. His explanation, “Sarah has an active imagination and if I tell her the truth, she’ll think there’s something going on. Both you and I know that we’re just having a harmless evening of catching up, but if I tell her like it is, she won’t buy it. It’s just easier to lie, it’s less complicated that way.”

The way Jim sees it isn’t an isolated incident. Men lie for different reasons and with different motivations. Why do men lie? Most often, the reasons for which they lie to their partners/lovers/spouses/girlfriends follow a set pattern. Men lie…

1. For the heck of it

Men often have a great sense of the absurd and enjoy telling the occasional lie just for a lark. They find they get a few laughs out of suckering the party concerned and pulling the wool over their eyes successfully.

2. As a matter of course

Sometimes men just lie because they can’t be bothered to tell the truth. It’s just a habit that comes naturally and can be used as a defense mechanism, rather than go through the awkward motions of telling it like it is.

3. Because it’s less complicated

If the truth requires long explanations and supporting facts, men figure it’s just easier to tell a lie. Rather than get into long-winded stories to their spouse, which expend a lot of time and effort and may still result in disgruntled looks and dissatisfied expressions and take more convincing to be believable, men prefer to lie.

4. If the reason is innocuous

If the lie isn’t a major one, men justify it as being harmless. And if it’s harmless, what’s wrong in it? They figure they’re not hurting anyone with a simple little white lie, and they don’t lose any sleep over it.

5. Because they get themselves into trouble when they tell the truth

Some men find they have an uncanny knack for getting themselves into trouble when they try telling the truth. And that it never works for them. They try being straightforward, like a sailor friend who told his girlfriend how he enjoyed visiting strip bars, when ashore, to unwind after a particularly tough voyage, and how she blew a fuse over it. He thought being honest was a great thing, until he discovered it was better to have lied or simply evaded telling the truth.

Like Jim, some men feel that if they tell their partner the truth like it is, they will read more into the situation than there actually is, and blow it out of proportion. Not only will this cause trouble for the relationship, but it will also lead to a lot of discomfort and tension, which was unnecessary and uncalled for in the first place. By lying about it, men eliminate the possibility of stress and anxiety over their partner’s reaction and rest easy knowing they’ve averted a possible mishap.


What is truth and what are just lies

Why do women lie? Do they think men are just stupid and we will never catch them? Or are they so confident in their superiority, that they feel even if they are caught, or when they are caught, it won’t matter because either a) they can lie there way out of it. Or b) they can apologize in person while at the same time using their sexual prowess to make us forget the past in light of the apparent and promising near future?

An example of this would be a good friend of mine. This is his story as he told it to me.  I have been very close friends with a girl for three years now. During this time I have been told by her “you’re everything I want in a man/soul mate/ father figure/ lover/ etc…’. I have told her some of the same things except I told her about my family’s mission statement.

This is a statement that defines who we are as a family and also what our goals are for our family and as individuals. She engages in certain life choices that are unacceptable to our family. So I have told her I have mutual feelings but until she decides to stop the behavior we do not accept then we can’t go any further.

She agrees that her behavior is destructive and is supposed to be changing that part of her life as we speak. However, in the mean time and not just recently but over the past three years she has told me I am her soul mate yet has also lied to me about other men she has seen. Lied to me about things like I miss you so much and then come to town and spent the weekend with a girlfriend and left with out ever calling.

Most recently said she missed me terribly and was coming to town soon. Normally that would mean staying with me. Then later that day a mutual friend asked me to have lunch. When I picked up this Girl she says “guess who called me this a.m.?” I said I know my best friend/ girlfriend she told me she called you. The other girl says yea “She’s coming to town next week and asked if she could stay with me and my brother for a few days”

This is where I finally decided I was tired of all the game playing, lies and being taken for a fool. She has to know I am going to hear this. My question is WHY? Why do you keep telling a man you love him and he is everything you want if it is not true? Do you just enjoy causing pain in the hearts of men? What is the point? Do you think we will never learn or that your actions will not eventually give you away? Or am I the only man that has ever encountered this?

I told her that I was sick of the game playing and her deceitfulness and not to call me any more unless she could be honest and stop playing games. I also made her aware of several lies I have known about but have not mentioned because I was waiting to see if she would ever come clean.

I haven’t heard from her since. It has been very difficult for me as she has for three years been my very best friend. Yet if I am going to hold to my own beliefs and my own advice “don’t compromise” then I have to move ahead and realize I am wasting my time. Unless someone can convince me she has a legitimate reason for lying? Why do women lie?

Another reason is I have found it interesting that when ever anyone leaves a comment it usually sounds like they are under the impression I wrote this in the last week or two. Some well meaning offering advice on how to deal with this person who has now been out of my life for three years.

I am still single but in a much better place than when I originally wrote this. I am certain a big part of the reason is I am no longer involved in a destructive relationship. I agree with the advice of Bronco Billy and others who said long ago I should not be involved with a girl who is a liar.

I knew that then, but I was already in too deep emotionally, which is a mistake that can easily be made. I have also noticed that as I have moved forward I am attracting much higher quality ladies than I had been.

So the third and final reason for the appendix is for those of you who have just read this for the first time and were drawn to it because you have recently had to face the fact you are being lied to, then here is my advice as one who has been there.

1) Loose her now

2) She does not love you

3) Most likely she really only cares about herself

2) You do not deserve to be treated poorly

3) You can do better and the sooner you move on the sooner you will  do and feel better!!!

I feel so much better now and without going into any ugly details the girl in my article is not doing any better. I do not say that in a mean way . Actually I feel sorry for her . Her mother has called me a few times over the last three years and the last time was a month or two ago. She has not changed or if she has it sounds like the changes have been for the worse.

So had I continued to allow that relationship to go on I would be three years later possibly still asking the question why do women lie?

Honestly I don’t really care any more!!  What I mean by that is in general yes I still care just like I care that  people get sick, but personally speaking I don’t care because I am no longer involved with a liar. I do not have any intentions of ever getting involved with a woman of that kind of character again!!

Finally thanks to all of you who have taken time to read this article and leave your comments! I greatly appreciate all of them including those of opposing or different views.

I have since written many other articles some of which I think are better than this one but have hardly been read?  I will plug my most recent ” Ghost stories, Sleep paralysis, and other paranormal activity” true stories of real events in my life that give me the creeps even now!!!

I suggest reading that article and it most likely will help you quit thinking about whoever it is that is troubling you. Or possibly may cause you to think of them in a whole new way?

DJ STATIX ADVICE #2 Oct 6 2011 What if he’s taken?


Being in a fantasy does not make him available


Age: 29 marital status: single, never married

Hello, was hoping to get some advice. I met a guy in college when I was 20. We talked a little bit here and there. I like him alot more than just a friend. I can’t seem to forget him. even though it has been almost 10 years.

Since then I dropped out of college. I dont want to be with anyone else. I am convinced I am going to marry him one day and that he is the love of my life. He is now happily married to another girl now.

I emailed him in February 2010. He said he didn’t think we should talk becuase he is married now and doesn’t live in this area anymore. What should I do about this situation? should I try to find someone else? I love him though.


Dear Can’t Forget,

You are in total fantasy land. You talked to this guy. You never had a real relationship. You didn’t have sex, or even date. And all this happened ten years ago. What on earth makes you think you’re in love with him?

It’s time for you to move on and forget this one. Not having enough going on in your life is one reason you are obsessing about this man. Get a grip. Go on line at match.com or eharmony.com or any of the other dating sites on the internet and find someone to love who is available.

This guy is married, and obviously doesn’t want to even talk to you let alone have a relationship with you. You may be convinced he will marry you some day, but you really are fooling yourself. Give up this fantasy and accept the reality. He’s married, he’s not interested in you, and will probably never be available to you. So yes, you should try to find someone else.

Don’t let your life pass you by living in a dream that will never become real.