Make first date amazingly unforgettable


If you’re excitedly looking forward to your first date with a new partner, the last words you want to hear are “dinner and a movie”. First dates are a chance to really get to know one another, not to mention impress your new partner with your creativity and original thinking. For anyone looking for fun, creative and exciting first date ideas, here are some simple tips on how to plan an unforgettable first date.

Take a fresh approach on an old idea
Dinner dates, popcorn and a movie. Old-fashioned dates do have a lot of charm but they can start to feel a little tired and over familiar. Give old-fashioned dates a makeover with a fresh take and a fun, new vibe.

Instead of heading to your local cinema, make the most of the great outdoors and choose one of the many open-air parks.

Try a new cuisine
First dates are nerve wracking experiences at the best of times. So, why not take the opportunity to try something completely new together? Most cities have a multicultural and diverse restaurant scene, with everything from Korean to Japanese, Modern Canadian to German. Agree on a cuisine that you’re both completely new to and try your hand at a new dining style, whether it involves tricky chopsticks or the cheeky antics of a night at teppanyaki.

Take a doggie date
Both have pets? Then why not make the most of your beautiful natural surroundings and bring your animals along? This is a great way to get you out of the stuffy, same old restaurants. Plus, spending time with a person and their pets can tell you a lot about their personality.

If you’re a pet lover and are looking to find singles who share your interests, online dating is a great place to start. Relationship sites like http://www.eharmony.ca allow you to get to know people in your area, so you can organise a fun date with your pets ASAP. To find out more about whether eHarmony is the right online dating site for you, why not visit the eHarmony Google+ Page today to learn more about it?

Be a tourist in your own city
Sometimes when you spend all of your time in the same place, it’s easy to overlook the fascinating history and sites your home has to offer. A great first date idea is to share a self-guided walking tour around your hometown or a nearby destination. From the beautiful the art galleries of Your area to antique shops there’s much to love about a date on your own doorstep.

What ever you choose simply make it memorable.

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Ways to Make Your Fall In Love With You Maybe Again


3 Ways to Make Him Fall For You

Have you ever found yourself falling for a man you were dating and wondered if he was feeling the same way? Did you find yourself trying to prove what a great catch you are by being sweeter, funnier and smarter in hopes that he would fall in love with you? Focusing on what a man wants and ingratiating yourself in this way may feel like the natural thing to do, but it’s the worst way to try to make a man feel romantic love for you.

Love isn’t a reasonable emotion – and being “nice” and “understanding” and “a good sport” won’t get you where you want to go. Here are some ways that will:

Tip#1: Don’t give a man more than he gives you.

Love, and inspiring a man to fall in love with you forever, is all about you being able to receive love.

Most of us only know how to give. We give for lots of reasons – because we’re taught that’s the way to get to a man’s heart (it isn’t) because we see other women do it, and because deep down, it feels uncomfortable and scary to be vulnerable enough to really get love.

“A man is actually turned off when he gets more from you than he gives.”

A man is actually turned off when he gets more from you than he gives. When you shower him with affection, attention, dinners, gifts, and always go out of your way to drive to his place, it makes him think of you as a mother or a friend instead of inspiring his emotional desire for you.

Tip #2: Don’t give away exclusivity if he hasn’t yet committed.

We become totally, emotionally invested in a man when we’re exclusive with him because he has all our time and attention. There’s no way we can stop wondering about where the relationship is going. But the more we think about it and talk about it, the more we push a man away.

3 Ways to Make Him Fall For You

When you can think of it in these terms, it’s easier to keep your options open and keep your personal power in the relationship. Rather than talking about the relationship or threatening him with ultimatums, you can continue to keep your options open by dating other men. This way, you keep your class, your power, your boundaries, and he has to work to get you!

Tip#3: Don’t give him gifts, make him dinner or pay for dates.

Yes, this sounds unfair, and yet, who pays is often the difference in his mind between friends hanging out together and a “date.”

If a man complains about paying for everything, let him know you don’t care what you do, you feel great being with him, and you don’t want to pay. Walking, hanging out in bookstores, having a picnic in a park can all be fun, romantic ways to get close to a man.

(And forget about cooking dinner, or trying to make dating “reciprocal.” A bowl of popcorn and something to drink is fine.)

When you give a man gifts, give him all your attention and energy, and give MORE than you receive, you’re OVERFUNCTIONING.

Overfunctioning is doing more than your fair share and stepping up to rescue a man because you know you can do a better job. It’s arriving from your masculine energy. It feels aggressive and forward to a man. And it’s totally unattractive to him.

How can I relieve stress? Six simple ideas.


How To De-Stress

stress busting tips

Everyone experiences stress occasionally.  Unfortunately, a growing number of people are struggling to cope with stress that is chronic.  Be proactive!  Unaddressed, the symptoms of stress can affect your health and emotional well-being.  Put yourself at the top of your to-do list and incorporate these natural stress relievers into your daily life.

Exercise

At the end of a stressful day it can be hard to force yourself to go to the gym.  Your need to find something you will do on a consistent basis.  How about a walk around the neighborhood before dinner?  Spend 30 minutes on an exercise bike, treadmill or rebounder while you watch a program on TV or listen to some of your favorite feel good music.  .  Once you’ve formed the habit it will be easier to continue.

Sex

(I’m sorry did you say SEX!)

Sex is one of nature’s best stress relievers.  It can also be considered a form of exercise for those of you who are looking for an alternative to suggestion #1.  Do yourself and your partner a favor and make sure you’re including sex in your weekly activities.  A decreased sex drive is one of the symptoms of stress. However lower your stress by manually increasing your sex.

Sleep

Make sure you’re getting enough sleep.  It’s common to develop trouble sleeping when we’re under stress.  Make sure you take time to relax for 30 minutes before heading to bed.  Listening to soothing music or sounds of nature is helpful as well.

Massage

Muscle tension, pain and headaches are all classic symptoms of stress.  Massage can relieve the muscle tension thus easing the pain and headaches it causes.  Consider it health care of the most basic kind.  Make room in your schedule for a massage ASAP!  Remember your partner may want to give you that massage it will help them relieve their stress and may even lead to another stress reliever (see #2).

Meditation

Meditation is about learning to empty your mind and shifting your focus from stress to tranquility.  These are many types of meditation so do a little research and find what will work for you.

Crying

A study by the University of Minnesota found that the chemicals that emotional stress builds up in your body can be removed through your tears.  Another recent study puts the number of those who experience stress relief and improved mood after a good cry at just below 90%.  You may not be able to let go in the midst of the stressful situation but don’t fight the urge to give in to those tears later.  They can be healing.

 

How do you relieve stress? let me know in a comment below.

Rituals become habit become unconditional statements of love. Whats your ritual?


Romance Routine

A love ritual is something you do that is part of an established routine. The couples that take the time to create a love ritual find their relationship more loving and full of romance. If you’ve been looking for a way to create a new spark in your relationship, a love ritual might be just the idea for you.
Create a lasting ritual to help keep romance a permanent part of your relationship.

Love Rituals

If this is something you’d like to try, the task of finding the perfect love ritual should be fairly easy. You can do anything from something as common as watching a favorite T.V. show at a set time every week to a more elaborate idea of reserving the day of the week you met as a special, all-out date night. Your options are truly endless! For more creative, ritual ideas, read the love rituals below that other Lovingyou.com couples are doing right now!

Everyday Rituals

“Every time we pass by or even get close to each other, we kiss and hug to tell each other how we are grateful we are that we met.” -Candace Martin

“Every single night we make sure we cuddle on the couch together, make love anywhere and everywhere in the house, and then shower together and fall asleep in each other’s arms. I love it!” -Tiana

“We always go to bed earlier than we need too, light candles and just talk, or whatever comes to mind!” -Suzanne

“Every night before my boyfriend and I go to bed, we ask if we have had our hug today. If not, we give each other a great big hug and a kiss, and tell each other ‘I love you’ and I fall asleep in his arms.” -Anonymous

“We make sure we talk to each other every night before we go to sleep.” -Anonymous

“My boyfriend and I enjoy watching the TV show “Friends” together. No matter what we are doing in our apartment, surfing the net or reading a book, we both stop at 6:30 and watch our TV show together. It’s great to have something we can laugh at together.” -Cori

“We pray every night together!” -Brooke

“Matt and I tape All my Children and watch it together every night after we come home from work. We also like to cook together, and we talk and ask how each other’s day went. To me, it’s extra special when we do things together. It creates memories and closer ties to each other.” -Megan

“We give each other cute love quotes every morning.” -Maha

“We take a midnight swim in the pool in the nude every night before bed.” -Donna

Weekly Rituals

“Every Friday night, my partner and I stay out and cuddle and look at the stars together while I kiss his neck.” -Holly

“We meet every Sunday (when both of us are free) at her apartment and spend the whole day together. We talk, go out to movies or dinners, cuddle up in front of the TV, and have fabulous sex at night. These love rituals keep the enthusiasm levels high and keep our relationship alive and roaring.” -Sanmon

“He doesn’t like to watch Dharma and Greg, but every Tuesday night he will cuddle up with me in bed and watch it with me.” -Texasgirl

“Even though it’s not always weekly, my husband and I love Barnes & Nobles bookstore. We take our son to story time and always get one of their Frappucinos. I had to go yesterday without him, so I skipped the Frap. It just wasn’t the same without him.” -Pab

“We first started dating on a Tuesday night, so we call it ‘Special Tuesday.’ This is a night for treating each other to a candlelight dinner, watching a movie or walking on the beach.” -Alvern

“We have been married almost 43 years. We spend each evening before dinner–out on the patio listening to our old favorites (music of the fifties) with a martini or a lovely bottle of wine. We TALK a lot. Dinner follows. Then, what ever will be, will be. You can only imagine. We love each other to pieces.” -Mary

“We spend every Sunday together, and we rent movies and just cuddle on the couch.” -Summer Santagto

“We take a walk every weekend.” -Gina

“My lover and I make it a habit to sit down together every Saturday and have a lovely breakfast for two. Both of us contribute to it. He makes the coffee and gets the juice, sets the table and I cook. No newspapers are allowed at the table and no television. We usually play something classical on the CD player. Breakfast usually takes about 2 and a half hours. Quality time with quality refreshments and quality music. We find it strengthens the bonds between us and gets us in the right mood for facing the rest of the world.” -Trish

“We always leave Sundays for us. Sometimes we do no more than watch TV all day. Whatever we do it’s our day.” -Lisa

Bedtime Rituals

“We say ‘I Love You’ before going to sleep each night and every morning!” -Adam Olgin

“Every night before we go to bed, we tell each other our goodnight message, ‘Goodnight, sleep tight, don’t let the bed bugs bite, sweet dreams, I love you!” -In Love

“My sweetie says goodnight to me a certain way every single night. His pet name for me is Vikkybear. He says, ‘Goodnight my little Vikkybear, I hope you have sweet, sweet dreams.’ Then, he kisses me and hugs me. It’s something I look forward to every night. Even when he was away for a week, he called me every night to say that to me.” -Vikky

“Every night before we go to sleep, he kisses my hand. To me it is a sign of total respect and love.” -Ashley

Long Distance Rituals

“My boyfriend and I always make sure to call one another before we go to sleep at night. It’s a way for us to end the day knowing that one another is safe and tucked tight into bed. We also make sure that we never go to bed angry at each other. It’s better to talk it out than to drag it out till the next day.” -Laciebug

“My love ritual is having a phone date at 9:00pm every night until our voices start to crack early in the morning. That way we are the last person on each other’s mind.” -Tiey Lopez

“Our ritual is every night right before we go to bed, we send each other what we call “sweet stuff.” It’s just a little message telling the other how much we love them, how much we enjoyed the time we had together, and give each other wishes of a good night, and sweet dreams and pleasant day to come. It’s seems weird now, but I’m so used to having them, that I can have trouble sleeping on nights when they aren’t possible.” -Jen

Random Rituals

“Take a bath together.” -Woods

“When I come home after a great night with my honey, I flash my porch light three times before he drives off. (It means I LOVE YOU.) Then, he flashes his car lights 4 times to say ‘I LOVE YOU MORE!'” -Brittni

“We give each other a really good massage at least once a month.” -Loretta

“Since we live apart, whenever he takes me home he always opens the car door for me and then waits for me to get in. I smile at him until he shuts the door, even if it’s freezing cold or raining.” -Danielle

 

Leave me a comment on what your rituals are or would be. If you don’t have any tell me one you would like to have.

7 Ways to be a better woman in his life.


Let Your Boyfriend Brag About You!

Want to be the kind of girlfriend your guy brags about? Here are some tips to keep the relationship on track and ensure that your man is happy that you’re the one he’s with!

Young couple talking over coffee

1. Trust

Most of us men hate suspicious girlfriends. If you can’t trust me, you’re not with the right guy. Don’t get caught up questioning where we have been or searching my phone. Put your faith in what you have together and I’ll be more likely to live up to your expectations.

2. Keep your focus

Don’t make the relationship your only focus. You have a life of your own apart from your relationship. It’s what made you interesting to me in the first place. However, remember that your life also includes me and don’t do with others what you refuse to do with me.

3. Be honest

If I ask you what’s wrong, tell me. Let me know what you think and what you need. Don’t make me guess what is wrong if there’s a problem.

4. Be attentive

There’s a big difference between being attentive and just being clingy when you’re out together. You shouldn’t need to prove to the world that you’re together — it makes you seem needy. And never flirt with my friends under any circumstances. Just remember to keep it equal don’t just leave me there alone but make sure you don’t over cling. You and only you know the happy medium.

5. No nagging

Don’t argue or hassle all the time. Nagging will just make me tune out and besides, it’s a waste of time for both of you. Show you care but make sure you don’t make me think you just want it your way. I will compromise if you do.

6. Respect his space

I don’t always want to talk about my feelings or be your constant companion 24/7. Pressuring me into being together all of the time or discussing my problems will only push me away. It’s not that I don’t ever want to talk but I just don’t want to talk right now. Be patient and I’ll be the one to initiate more time together and more intimate conversations. Take it slow and allow the relationship to develop naturally.

7. Don’t try to change him

Don’t be with me so that you can change me. I  like myself for who I am  and expects that you do, too, if you want to be with me, and not your version of me. If you don’t like the way I dress, what I say or my occupation, I’m probably not the one for you. I  accepted you for who you are, and you have to be willing to do the same for me.

 

They seem simple in a sense but watch how hard it is for you to bite your tongue and give it a try. The funnies part is I could re post this as “how to be a better Man in her life” and it would work just the same.

Reignite the passion


Bring Sexy Back

Remember when you wanted nothing more than naked time with your man – all the time?

Striptease

The good old days

You remember the passion of early on in your relationship… spending all day long, simmering with longing… looking forward to nightfall when you could see your mate and rip his clothes off.

Those were the days. Now, if you want to get hot, you lean against the stove.

“Women especially shut down sexually after being with a man over time because their heart gets wounded and the man doesn’t know how to heal it. A woman’s heart is connected to her womb. If her heart is wounded, it will close. If her heart is closed…her legs are closed,” says couples counselor Jane Fendelman, MC (www.JaneFendelman.com). She supports the use of tantric sex and the ancient healing arts in bridging the gap.

Show your love

Staying sexy and keeping the romance alive is intrinsic to making it last. Nicole Matthias, president of badfun.com, says some ideas to resuscitate romance are:

  • Leave a love note– Leaving a note for your love is a thoughtful and easy way to let them know that you’re thinking about them. Just leave a little note on the bathroom mirror, refrigerator, in their briefcase, etc that says something sweet such as “Have a good day!” or “I can’t wait to see you tonight” or even “Will be thinking of you today.”  This unexpected find can not only brighten their day but remind them that you love them.
  • Surprise dinner – Instead of picking up takeout on the way home, plan to make their favorite meal and eat it with the TV off! Light candles and set the table with the good china and get a nice bottle of wine. The time you put into it is what makes it special.
  • Send an e-card – There are lots of sites that offer free e-cards and all it takes is a few minutes during your lunch break to pick one, personalize it and send it off. It’s a welcomed interruption to their gazillion junk mail, conference reminder emails and customer emails.
  • Lingerie fashion show – You can do it all in one night or for an entire week. Ladies, you can try on lingerie and do a little runway walk or sexy dance. Keep changing outfits while he admires your body in each one. Add some edibles into the mix for a few outfits or special hands on feature. Gentleman: Pick out some lingerie items that you want to see her in and have her model them for you. We want to know what you like!
  • Sexual adventure – Instead of leaving Hershey kisses in the shape of a heart on the bed, try chocolate body topping. Make it romantic and sexy by taking your time licking it off their body from top to bottom. When you spend time adoring their body you let them know that you truly care about them and their pleasure.
  • Don’t wait – Don’t wait for a special occasion to do something romantic. It’s almost expected and therefore loses some of its meaning. You want to surprise them with something small but thoughtful that expresses your love in a different way than usual. Reminders of your feelings for your lover won’t go unappreciated!
  • Bring In some friends- I’m talking about sexual enhancers, adult toys or massage oils. Sometimes adding something a little extra can cause you to linger on your lover’s hot spots a little longer. There are a number of products that are great for couples.  I recommend a vibrating erection ring.  It helps him to last longer while providing her with maximum pleasure.

Man and Woman KissingThe relationship is a person, too…

Lisa Steadman, a relationship journalist for The Breakup Chronicles, http://www.BreakupChronicles.com and author of It’s a Breakup Not a Breakdown says: “Whether you’re married for years, have children, and/or just feel the spark is waning, it’s important to reignite that spark. You may need a shift in thinking. First, start thinking of your relationship as a third party. You, your partner, and the relationship are all active members of the same triangle. Not only do you and your partner have needs, but your relationship has needs. If you neglect it, you lose the spark.”

How do you reclaim the spark? She advises: “Make time for slowing down, i.e. turn the TV off, set aside time to not talk about the kids, the bills, the debt, work. Talk to the other person about them. Light candles, listen to soft music, touch without being sexual. Just BE together. Kiss. Be kind, nurturing. Give back rubs. Go on a date. Invite play into the bedroom. Whether that’s cuddling, toys, sexy lingerie, whatever works for both of you. Don’t always make this time about sex. Sometimes in order to get back to sex, you need to first get back to loving and being loved as a couple. Stimulate your senses to stimulate the sexual/sensual appetite.”

How men are like puppies

“In a way, men sometimes are like cute pet puppies. A man would much rather roll around in the mud or dig holes in the yard than spend time making his relationship better,” Dr. McClary says. “Now I am not saying men are like dogs or that they should come panting when you whistle. I am saying that many lessons about living with men can be learned from observing ever-faithful canine companions. All obedience schools are based on the reward system, so it’s probably worth applying some of their basic principles.”

Dr. McClary also has seven tips to keeping romance alive:

  • Have a weekly date night. Take turns deciding what each of you would like to do each time. Have fun being together, just the two of you, for a few hours each week. Go out to eat, on a picnic, for a walk, play miniature golf, to the office and fool around, go bowling, and on and on.
  • Drop it! Let go of all the past crap he’s put you through. Start fresh, right now. Begin making new memories. Discover each other all over again. After all, he’s dating a new, wonderful, wild woman. Let the woman be fully present on your “dates.”
  • Be passionate! No more little pecks on the check, little shoulder top hugs, or weak “love ya’s.” Come on you empowered woman! Go the distance. At least once a day, kiss him like you really mean it. When you hug each other, make sure you give a full-blown, juicy, full body bear hug (stiffness or tense hugging does not count). When he says “love ya,” stop what you are doing, walk over to him, look him in the eyes, and say “I love you, too. I mean I really do love you!” Enjoy the feelings this invokes
  • Go the extra mile. Leave love notes, send cards, take him out to dinner, dance with him or for him, make him lemonade and cookies — do something a little extra, just for him, and just for the heck of it.
  • Notice him. When he comes home, stop for a minute and welcome him home. If he’s home before you, acknowledge his presence in a loving way. Remember, you are healed and whole now. This will make you feel good, like you are giving him the precious gift of being loved by you.
  • Take vacations together. Make sure that at least one vacation, even if just for a weekend or one full night, is just for the two of you.
  • When you feel you and your man have finally developed Real Love, get married again.Jim and I went to Las Vegas to the Mission of the Bells chapel. It was great. The re-marriage package included a limo with a bar and TV (I had to promptly confiscate the remote), the church service, minister, music, flowers, and champagne. It was perfect! All that was missing was an Elvis impersonator to “give me away!” We honeymooned at Caesar’s Palace. The best part was that my ever-awakening husband planned every bit of this. A Real Love marriage, and honeymoon — aah, life doesn’t get much better than that.

    It's your man do him when you want him

What do fear and sex have in common?

Terri Orbuch, PhD, better known as television and radio’s Love Doctor (drterrithelovedoctor.com), who specializes in marriage, modern dating, love, and sex, offers the following tips:

  • Add a new or exciting element into your life. When your marital sex life is in the doldrums, an effective remedy is get you and your partner excited–out of bed. This could be anything from skiing to taking a cooking class to going on a mystery date. It transmits the subliminal message of freshness, energy, and unpredictability–just what you want in the sack.
  • Be afraid–be very afraid. Plan an activity that scares the living daylights out of you and your partner. Go on a roller coaster ride or see a scary movie. Studies show that activities producing fear and excitement produce hormones associated with sexual arousal.
  • Practice small endearments. Make an effort to kiss him when you see him. Hold hands when you go out. Snuggle while you watch TV. Studies show that people feel more connected to their partners when they hold hands, hug, kiss, and cuddle. This closeness leads to more and better sex.
  • Surprise him with an erotic email. Send your partner a sexy email or give him a call out of the blue in the middle of the day. Showing your guy that you’re hot for him, even during your busy day, is very exciting to males.
  • Reacquaint yourselves. When was the last time you two talked about something other than work and family? Ask him about his dreams. Ask him to tell you about his favorite pre-marriage vacation. Get to know him again just like you did on your first dates. It will work wonders on your love life.
  • Get a tune-up. There’s nothing wrong with relationship workshops. In fact, there are so many fun ones these days that you and your guy might just want to make it an annual event. The whole point of these events is to get two people loving again. Take a tip or two from pros–that’s what they’re good at. You change your oil every 5,000 miles, don’t you? Why not put a little effort into your sex life and relationship?

Help him stay in love with you

Often the hardest aspect is trying to understand what the man in our life is thinking. Michael French, author of WHY MEN FALL OUT OF LOVE: What Every Woman Needs to Understand, explains why men fall out of love, and offers tips on how to bring some excitement back into any marriage or relationship.   In his book, French presents a fascinating look at men’s deepest feelings, identifying the key issues that can unravel even the tightest bonds, and has even identified the four top relationship busters:

  • Loss of intimacy – when a man feels rejected by his partner;
  • The quest for validation – which stems from low self-esteem, and a man’s continual search for approval and acceptance;
  • The perfection impulse – the tendency of men to mask low self-esteem with achievement;
  • The fading of attraction – when men tell their partners they’re no longer attracted to them, they’re masking the real reason for their loss of interest – that they’re not getting enough love.

“Libido is like a muscle — use it or lose it! That means you have to make a habit of lovemaking. The more you do it — the more you’ll feel like doing it,” says Jennifer Oikle, Ph.D, a psychologist who specializes in relationship coaching. So, ladies, you heard the doctor, go out and get some “exercise.”

If that fails, there’s always chocolate.

Lingerie: What guys say about your sexy nightwear


Silk, Leather And Lace

Lingerie: Is it a good investment or a waste of money? Read on to find out what guys really think about your sexy nightwear.

Woman wearing lingerie

Women know that men are visual creatures. But is it worth it to shell out tons of money for sexy lingerie, or are you better off just prancing around in your birthday suit? It depends on the man, but for most guys, you can’t go wrong with a sexy little outfit or two.

Just for him

Yes, you’re putting it on just so he can take it off, but it’s really the same principle as wrapping paper. It’s all about the anticipation of removing the lingerie. When you dress up in something sexy, it’s like a present from you to him. He’ll know that you picked out the lingerie just for him, and he’ll know you put it on to please him. That makes him feel like a million bucks.

Lingerie makes it special

You’re busy, and so is he. Some days, it’s hard enough to squeeze in a quickie, let alone make it a big production. When you put on a piece of sexy lingerie, it makes the sex feel like an event and not an afterthought. It doesn’t have to be every time, but every now and then, lingerie is a nice touch.

What it does to you

You probably don’t realize this, but one of your guy’s favorite things about lingerie is what it does to you. When you put on a piece of sexy lingerie, you feel sexy and feminine — and it’s obvious. That confidence is hot and makes him want you even more. Slip into something that makes you feel awesome and strut your stuff. That’s a gift in itself.

What type should you pick?

The possibilities are endless. Some men like a woman to dress up naughty in leather and lace. Others like a more innocent silk cami with matching bikini underwear. Some guys are a sucker for G-strings and see-through bras, while others would rather you not be so revealing. All it takes for some fellas is a matching set of skivvies. Find out what your man wants. Browse catalogs and websites together, then buy something similar to what he points out. Better yet — go shopping together for lingerie. The trip itself will be like an afternoon of foreplay, so don’t be surprised if you don’t get around to putting it on when you get home. Don’t worry – you can save it for another day.