Ways to Make Your Fall In Love With You Maybe Again


3 Ways to Make Him Fall For You

Have you ever found yourself falling for a man you were dating and wondered if he was feeling the same way? Did you find yourself trying to prove what a great catch you are by being sweeter, funnier and smarter in hopes that he would fall in love with you? Focusing on what a man wants and ingratiating yourself in this way may feel like the natural thing to do, but it’s the worst way to try to make a man feel romantic love for you.

Love isn’t a reasonable emotion – and being “nice” and “understanding” and “a good sport” won’t get you where you want to go. Here are some ways that will:

Tip#1: Don’t give a man more than he gives you.

Love, and inspiring a man to fall in love with you forever, is all about you being able to receive love.

Most of us only know how to give. We give for lots of reasons – because we’re taught that’s the way to get to a man’s heart (it isn’t) because we see other women do it, and because deep down, it feels uncomfortable and scary to be vulnerable enough to really get love.

“A man is actually turned off when he gets more from you than he gives.”

A man is actually turned off when he gets more from you than he gives. When you shower him with affection, attention, dinners, gifts, and always go out of your way to drive to his place, it makes him think of you as a mother or a friend instead of inspiring his emotional desire for you.

Tip #2: Don’t give away exclusivity if he hasn’t yet committed.

We become totally, emotionally invested in a man when we’re exclusive with him because he has all our time and attention. There’s no way we can stop wondering about where the relationship is going. But the more we think about it and talk about it, the more we push a man away.

3 Ways to Make Him Fall For You

When you can think of it in these terms, it’s easier to keep your options open and keep your personal power in the relationship. Rather than talking about the relationship or threatening him with ultimatums, you can continue to keep your options open by dating other men. This way, you keep your class, your power, your boundaries, and he has to work to get you!

Tip#3: Don’t give him gifts, make him dinner or pay for dates.

Yes, this sounds unfair, and yet, who pays is often the difference in his mind between friends hanging out together and a “date.”

If a man complains about paying for everything, let him know you don’t care what you do, you feel great being with him, and you don’t want to pay. Walking, hanging out in bookstores, having a picnic in a park can all be fun, romantic ways to get close to a man.

(And forget about cooking dinner, or trying to make dating “reciprocal.” A bowl of popcorn and something to drink is fine.)

When you give a man gifts, give him all your attention and energy, and give MORE than you receive, you’re OVERFUNCTIONING.

Overfunctioning is doing more than your fair share and stepping up to rescue a man because you know you can do a better job. It’s arriving from your masculine energy. It feels aggressive and forward to a man. And it’s totally unattractive to him.

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9 Responses to “Ways to Make Your Fall In Love With You Maybe Again”

  1. Robert!! Says:

    I’m sorry to say this, but you are wrong. If you wrote this when you thought you knew men, well, let me tell you this: you don’t know men. I am a man and I know for a fact you are wrong. Esspecially your last sentence: “It feels aggressive and forward to a man. And it’s totally unattractive to him.” When women are taking over the world, thats the point when things are turning agressive. But showing love, making dinner, giving gifts, thats not aggressive. Thats the total opposite of aggresive. Thats showing love.

    And I love it when my wife shows me how much she loves me. And she loves it when I show her how much I love her. Ill make her dinner, I giver flowers, I get her groceries, I make her tea and breakfast and I tell her to stay in bed for as lond as she wants, and that ill take care of everything.

    I dont mind doing that, and she doesn’t mind me doing that. And ofcourse its also the other way around. We love eachother, we are eachothers world. We do everything for eachother.

    So please, don’t make one big pile of men. I think you would be surprised if you knew how many men love to be overwhelmed with there wifes or gf’s love.

    • pointsofviewers Says:

      I appreciate your comment but as you said you and your wife are in love and do know you love each other this was meant for those who dont think their man is still emotionally attached, but I thank you for your comment.

    • Cadence Harper Says:

      If it’s your wife or gf– that’s totally different than someone you just started dating. If you have loving behaviors inside a relationship then it’s a beautiful thing… But if a woman is pouring out her love and you barely know her, it gets a little wierd. I think.

  2. Robert!! Says:

    Sorry, I forgot the “subscribe” button. you can delete this comment.

  3. Cadence Harper Says:

    This sounds very similar to points in Sherry Argov’s “Why Men Love Bitches”. & I think you have some great points here… The only one I wonder about is the exclusivity thing. I think I torpedoed something that really had potential, because of that… I didn’t want to be with anyone else but I was just waiting for him to stay “I don’t want you to see anyone else”… Instead I think he interpreted it as if I wasn’t sure about him and wanted to be with someone else. 😦

    • The Reluctant Monogamist Says:

      Do you really thing you had anything to do with this not working? Either it does or it doesn’t. I just don’t buy into this game-playing mentality that there is some magical way a woman can act in order to make commitment/exclusivity with a man happen.

  4. The Reluctant Monogamist Says:

    There is no way I want to be with a man that is “turned off” by me being nice and giving to him. There’s a happy medium between total bitch and total doormat. And if I’m being a kind, decent human being that is willing to go out of my way every once and a while and do you a favor and THAT is what makes you lose interest, well then you deserve the hell-on-wheels bitch with drama to spare that you will inevitably attract.

  5. lifewithblondie Says:

    I have a couple of girlfriends I am sending this blog to! I think you’re right, we tend to try to shower men with affection and they end up seeing us as mothers (to them) as opposed to lovers. I am married, and have been with my husband since I was 19 (long long ago) but it wasn’t until I STOPPED babying him that STARTED to find some satisfaction in our marriage. We are on a journey of role-changing, and I am hoping in the end, we will fall in love all over again, with each other, only this time we will be two completely different people! Hey, a girl can hope….


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