How can I relieve stress? Six simple ideas.


How To De-Stress

stress busting tips

Everyone experiences stress occasionally.  Unfortunately, a growing number of people are struggling to cope with stress that is chronic.  Be proactive!  Unaddressed, the symptoms of stress can affect your health and emotional well-being.  Put yourself at the top of your to-do list and incorporate these natural stress relievers into your daily life.

Exercise

At the end of a stressful day it can be hard to force yourself to go to the gym.  Your need to find something you will do on a consistent basis.  How about a walk around the neighborhood before dinner?  Spend 30 minutes on an exercise bike, treadmill or rebounder while you watch a program on TV or listen to some of your favorite feel good music.  .  Once you’ve formed the habit it will be easier to continue.

Sex

(I’m sorry did you say SEX!)

Sex is one of nature’s best stress relievers.  It can also be considered a form of exercise for those of you who are looking for an alternative to suggestion #1.  Do yourself and your partner a favor and make sure you’re including sex in your weekly activities.  A decreased sex drive is one of the symptoms of stress. However lower your stress by manually increasing your sex.

Sleep

Make sure you’re getting enough sleep.  It’s common to develop trouble sleeping when we’re under stress.  Make sure you take time to relax for 30 minutes before heading to bed.  Listening to soothing music or sounds of nature is helpful as well.

Massage

Muscle tension, pain and headaches are all classic symptoms of stress.  Massage can relieve the muscle tension thus easing the pain and headaches it causes.  Consider it health care of the most basic kind.  Make room in your schedule for a massage ASAP!  Remember your partner may want to give you that massage it will help them relieve their stress and may even lead to another stress reliever (see #2).

Meditation

Meditation is about learning to empty your mind and shifting your focus from stress to tranquility.  These are many types of meditation so do a little research and find what will work for you.

Crying

A study by the University of Minnesota found that the chemicals that emotional stress builds up in your body can be removed through your tears.  Another recent study puts the number of those who experience stress relief and improved mood after a good cry at just below 90%.  You may not be able to let go in the midst of the stressful situation but don’t fight the urge to give in to those tears later.  They can be healing.

 

How do you relieve stress? let me know in a comment below.

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Rituals become habit become unconditional statements of love. Whats your ritual?


Romance Routine

A love ritual is something you do that is part of an established routine. The couples that take the time to create a love ritual find their relationship more loving and full of romance. If you’ve been looking for a way to create a new spark in your relationship, a love ritual might be just the idea for you.
Create a lasting ritual to help keep romance a permanent part of your relationship.

Love Rituals

If this is something you’d like to try, the task of finding the perfect love ritual should be fairly easy. You can do anything from something as common as watching a favorite T.V. show at a set time every week to a more elaborate idea of reserving the day of the week you met as a special, all-out date night. Your options are truly endless! For more creative, ritual ideas, read the love rituals below that other Lovingyou.com couples are doing right now!

Everyday Rituals

“Every time we pass by or even get close to each other, we kiss and hug to tell each other how we are grateful we are that we met.” -Candace Martin

“Every single night we make sure we cuddle on the couch together, make love anywhere and everywhere in the house, and then shower together and fall asleep in each other’s arms. I love it!” -Tiana

“We always go to bed earlier than we need too, light candles and just talk, or whatever comes to mind!” -Suzanne

“Every night before my boyfriend and I go to bed, we ask if we have had our hug today. If not, we give each other a great big hug and a kiss, and tell each other ‘I love you’ and I fall asleep in his arms.” -Anonymous

“We make sure we talk to each other every night before we go to sleep.” -Anonymous

“My boyfriend and I enjoy watching the TV show “Friends” together. No matter what we are doing in our apartment, surfing the net or reading a book, we both stop at 6:30 and watch our TV show together. It’s great to have something we can laugh at together.” -Cori

“We pray every night together!” -Brooke

“Matt and I tape All my Children and watch it together every night after we come home from work. We also like to cook together, and we talk and ask how each other’s day went. To me, it’s extra special when we do things together. It creates memories and closer ties to each other.” -Megan

“We give each other cute love quotes every morning.” -Maha

“We take a midnight swim in the pool in the nude every night before bed.” -Donna

Weekly Rituals

“Every Friday night, my partner and I stay out and cuddle and look at the stars together while I kiss his neck.” -Holly

“We meet every Sunday (when both of us are free) at her apartment and spend the whole day together. We talk, go out to movies or dinners, cuddle up in front of the TV, and have fabulous sex at night. These love rituals keep the enthusiasm levels high and keep our relationship alive and roaring.” -Sanmon

“He doesn’t like to watch Dharma and Greg, but every Tuesday night he will cuddle up with me in bed and watch it with me.” -Texasgirl

“Even though it’s not always weekly, my husband and I love Barnes & Nobles bookstore. We take our son to story time and always get one of their Frappucinos. I had to go yesterday without him, so I skipped the Frap. It just wasn’t the same without him.” -Pab

“We first started dating on a Tuesday night, so we call it ‘Special Tuesday.’ This is a night for treating each other to a candlelight dinner, watching a movie or walking on the beach.” -Alvern

“We have been married almost 43 years. We spend each evening before dinner–out on the patio listening to our old favorites (music of the fifties) with a martini or a lovely bottle of wine. We TALK a lot. Dinner follows. Then, what ever will be, will be. You can only imagine. We love each other to pieces.” -Mary

“We spend every Sunday together, and we rent movies and just cuddle on the couch.” -Summer Santagto

“We take a walk every weekend.” -Gina

“My lover and I make it a habit to sit down together every Saturday and have a lovely breakfast for two. Both of us contribute to it. He makes the coffee and gets the juice, sets the table and I cook. No newspapers are allowed at the table and no television. We usually play something classical on the CD player. Breakfast usually takes about 2 and a half hours. Quality time with quality refreshments and quality music. We find it strengthens the bonds between us and gets us in the right mood for facing the rest of the world.” -Trish

“We always leave Sundays for us. Sometimes we do no more than watch TV all day. Whatever we do it’s our day.” -Lisa

Bedtime Rituals

“We say ‘I Love You’ before going to sleep each night and every morning!” -Adam Olgin

“Every night before we go to bed, we tell each other our goodnight message, ‘Goodnight, sleep tight, don’t let the bed bugs bite, sweet dreams, I love you!” -In Love

“My sweetie says goodnight to me a certain way every single night. His pet name for me is Vikkybear. He says, ‘Goodnight my little Vikkybear, I hope you have sweet, sweet dreams.’ Then, he kisses me and hugs me. It’s something I look forward to every night. Even when he was away for a week, he called me every night to say that to me.” -Vikky

“Every night before we go to sleep, he kisses my hand. To me it is a sign of total respect and love.” -Ashley

Long Distance Rituals

“My boyfriend and I always make sure to call one another before we go to sleep at night. It’s a way for us to end the day knowing that one another is safe and tucked tight into bed. We also make sure that we never go to bed angry at each other. It’s better to talk it out than to drag it out till the next day.” -Laciebug

“My love ritual is having a phone date at 9:00pm every night until our voices start to crack early in the morning. That way we are the last person on each other’s mind.” -Tiey Lopez

“Our ritual is every night right before we go to bed, we send each other what we call “sweet stuff.” It’s just a little message telling the other how much we love them, how much we enjoyed the time we had together, and give each other wishes of a good night, and sweet dreams and pleasant day to come. It’s seems weird now, but I’m so used to having them, that I can have trouble sleeping on nights when they aren’t possible.” -Jen

Random Rituals

“Take a bath together.” -Woods

“When I come home after a great night with my honey, I flash my porch light three times before he drives off. (It means I LOVE YOU.) Then, he flashes his car lights 4 times to say ‘I LOVE YOU MORE!'” -Brittni

“We give each other a really good massage at least once a month.” -Loretta

“Since we live apart, whenever he takes me home he always opens the car door for me and then waits for me to get in. I smile at him until he shuts the door, even if it’s freezing cold or raining.” -Danielle

 

Leave me a comment on what your rituals are or would be. If you don’t have any tell me one you would like to have.

7 Ways to be a better woman in his life.


Let Your Boyfriend Brag About You!

Want to be the kind of girlfriend your guy brags about? Here are some tips to keep the relationship on track and ensure that your man is happy that you’re the one he’s with!

Young couple talking over coffee

1. Trust

Most of us men hate suspicious girlfriends. If you can’t trust me, you’re not with the right guy. Don’t get caught up questioning where we have been or searching my phone. Put your faith in what you have together and I’ll be more likely to live up to your expectations.

2. Keep your focus

Don’t make the relationship your only focus. You have a life of your own apart from your relationship. It’s what made you interesting to me in the first place. However, remember that your life also includes me and don’t do with others what you refuse to do with me.

3. Be honest

If I ask you what’s wrong, tell me. Let me know what you think and what you need. Don’t make me guess what is wrong if there’s a problem.

4. Be attentive

There’s a big difference between being attentive and just being clingy when you’re out together. You shouldn’t need to prove to the world that you’re together — it makes you seem needy. And never flirt with my friends under any circumstances. Just remember to keep it equal don’t just leave me there alone but make sure you don’t over cling. You and only you know the happy medium.

5. No nagging

Don’t argue or hassle all the time. Nagging will just make me tune out and besides, it’s a waste of time for both of you. Show you care but make sure you don’t make me think you just want it your way. I will compromise if you do.

6. Respect his space

I don’t always want to talk about my feelings or be your constant companion 24/7. Pressuring me into being together all of the time or discussing my problems will only push me away. It’s not that I don’t ever want to talk but I just don’t want to talk right now. Be patient and I’ll be the one to initiate more time together and more intimate conversations. Take it slow and allow the relationship to develop naturally.

7. Don’t try to change him

Don’t be with me so that you can change me. I  like myself for who I am  and expects that you do, too, if you want to be with me, and not your version of me. If you don’t like the way I dress, what I say or my occupation, I’m probably not the one for you. I  accepted you for who you are, and you have to be willing to do the same for me.

 

They seem simple in a sense but watch how hard it is for you to bite your tongue and give it a try. The funnies part is I could re post this as “how to be a better Man in her life” and it would work just the same.