Being a gentleman never goes out of style. Yet these days, a lot of men, perhaps even you, fall short. However, if you make chivalry a part of your life with your wife or girlfriend, greatness will follow.
Opening the door. Now I know you probably open the door for her already. But what about the car door? When was the last time you got to your destination with her, got out, walked around the car and opened the door for her?
Pull the chair out for her. When you take her out to dinner, pull out her chair, let her step up to the table and gently push the chair in so that she can sit down. If you want to bump it up a bit, do this on a regular basis at home when you eat together.
Help her on and off with her coat. When you’re leaving with her to go out to dinner, help her on with her coat, and help her off with it again when you reach your destination.
Stand up when she does. If your wife needs to use the restroom during dinner, when she stands up, stop eating and stand up yourself. While she’s gone, you can sit back down. When you see her coming back, stand up, walk around the table and pull the chair out for her to sit down.
Now if you’re generally never this attentive to her, she’s going to think something’s up. She will likely think that you’re trying to get lucky or that you’re buttering her up for some reason. When she asks you (and she will) what is up with you, just tell her “This is my way of showing you how special you are to me.” I know that sounds corny but something like that will melt her heart, especially if it comes from you.
Here’s Your Practice Run
Imagine this if you will. It’s Saturday night, you get a sitter for the kids and tell your wife that you have dinner reservations at a nice restaurant downtown. You help her on with her coat and hold the house door and the car door open for her.
Once at the restaurant, you help her off with her coat and help her get seated at the table. When she leaves to visit the restroom, you stand up until she leaves. When you see her returning, again you stand up and help her get seated.
After dinner, you help her on with her coat, out of the restaurant and into your car. When you arrive back home, you park and help her out of the car. You just earned a major number of points with your wife and it was all pretty simple. If you do this on a regular basis, your wife will surely match you kindness for kindness.