10 Biggest Problems Men Have With Their Significant Others

Despite the picture-perfect impressions we get from upbeat Facebook posts or boastful holiday letters, even the healthiest marriages aren’t 100% free of conflict. At some point, virtually everyone feels wronged by a romantic partner. Bob Navarra, PsyD, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), says that those feelings aren’t what throw a marriage off course-it’s how couples handle them. “While it may be frustrating that the toothpaste cap was left off, happy couples talk about these small things,” he says. But when those emotions are swept under the rug, a more toxic variety of negativity begins to fester: resentment. Here, marriage experts share some of the most common reasons husbands resent their wives and how to protect your relationship.

1. Not fighting fair.
Happy couples don’t necessarily fight less, Dr. Navarra says; they just fight better, by “describing their own feelings and needs rather than labeling their partner as faulty.” And the ball is probably in your court for that. Research shows that wives are more likely to bring up problems for discussion, while husbands are more likely to withdraw at the first sign of an argument. When this keeps happening, women tend to start conversations on a negative note, which only makes things worse. Instead of resorting to personal attacks-“You’re such a slob!” “We’re going to be late because of you!”-which lead to defensiveness, Dr. Navarra recommends sticking to “I-statements,” such as “When (this happens), I feel (frustrated,

2. Treating him like a child.
“A big issue I see in couples is a man resenting his partner because he feels she talks down to him,” says Mary Kelleher, LMFT. This can leave him feeling “less-than,” and nothing triggers resentment faster than inadequacy. So avoid threatening his independence-the way pressuring him to go for a promotion so he’ll bring home more money may be perceived-suggests couples therapist Vagdevi Meunier, PsyD. “No one wants to feel ‘managed’ by a spouse,” Dr. Meunier says

3. Involving other people in your marriage.
What you might think of as harmless complaining to friends and family can actually break your husband’s trust. It threatens the safety of the “couple bubble” you’ve created together. “Men find this humiliating and hurtful,” says Norene Gonsiewski, Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), a couples’ therapist at the Portland Relationship Center in Oregon. If you really need to vent, consider talking to a doctor or therapist to keep things confidential.

4. Not showing appreciation for thing he does right.
“Men will never ask for it,” Gonsiewski says, but regular doses of praise are important. “They need to hear that their wives are proud of them.” Scott Haltzman, MD, author of The Secrets of Happily Married Women, notes that men tend to be more action-oriented than women, which means they show affection in different ways. “He may empty the dishwasher as a way of saying he cares about you.” Haltzman’s suggestion: “Pay attention to what he does, and let him know you notice.”

5. Withholding sex as punishment.
While women generally need emotional intimacy to make love, men express emotional intimacy through sex, says Marla Taviano, author of Is that All He Thinks About? When a wife turns down sex, in her husband’s mind, “she’s turning him down as a person,” explains Taviano. Using sex as a bargaining chip to get your needs meet isn’t negotiating-it’s emotional blackmail, which can alienate him. “Withholding sex may make your partner feel less love from you and give you less love in return,” says Dr. Haltzman.

6. Trying to change him.
“Every person can change, but it’s better to focus on our own changes, rather than our spouse’s behaviors,” says Anne Ziff, LMFT, author of Marrying Well. And yet, some women see marriage as a starting point for a “husband makeover.” This isn’t all bad-studies show that married men tend to eat healthier and have fewer problems with drugs and alcohol than single guys-but avoid creating a relationship in which your husband can’t be himself. “When a man feels his home is not his castle, and he can’t just be a guy-whether it’s walking around in his boxers or letting out a burp-he’ll feel like he’s been put in a box where he has to act prim and proper all the time,” Dr. Meunier says. Sometimes, it’s smarter to let the little things slide.

7. Making important decisions without his input.
Research shows that money is a top source of disagreements among married couples, even those with bigger budgets. In a lot of ways, money equals power, and balancing power is important to harmonious relationships, Meunier says. Whether you’re considering booking a vacation or buying a dishwasher, your partner deserves a say. The same goes for decisions that affect how you and your husband spend your time, such as inviting company over for dinner or signing up your kids for soccer. Although it may seem simpler to beg for forgiveness instead of getting him on board, unilateral decision making can drive you two apart.

8. Not giving him the chance to be the kind of dad he wants to be.
Mothers often parent differently than fathers, but not necessarily better. For instance, some studies show that parenting styles more common with dads, such as rough-and-tumble play, offer children unique developmental benefits. “Men’s resentment grows as their children develop with gaps in their competency and independence, two attributes men rate highly,” Gonsiewski says. “When a woman doesn’t trust her husband to parent she sends a message that he’s wrong and only she’s right.” Instead, “reinforce your husband for the positive contributions he makes to your children’s lives,” Dr. Haltzman recommends.

9. Acting jealous when he looks at other women.
Men are visual creatures, Dr. Meunier says, so it’s not surprising that a typical heterosexual man would notice a good-looking woman. “Women who understand this and don’t take it personally minimize unproductive fights about jealousy.” When a wife overreacts to a situation, her husband will likely feel defensive, and eventually, resentful. Dr. Meunier’s advice? “Chill out.” Responding to a visual cue isn’t cause for worry, she says-curious comments or behaviors, like dropping your hand to head across the room to talk to another woman, could signify a lack of commitment to you.

10. Expecting immediate forgiveness after you apologize.
Studies show that seeking and granting forgiveness greatly contributes to marital satisfaction and longevity. But beware of empty words. While apologizing manages conflict, Dr. Navarra says a simple “I’m sorry” often isn’t enough. To truly earn her husband’s forgiveness, a wife needs to show that she understands why her husband is upset. Dr. Haltzman recommends being specific about what you’re apologizing for, accepting responsibility for what you did, acknowledging that you what you did was harmful and lastly, asking what you can do to make it up to him. “If you’ve gotten to the first three steps cleanly, most men will say ‘forget about it’ to the last question,” Dr. Haltzman says.


Be a dirty girl

Need an excuse to move away from the sweet and innocent lover that you are to exploring downright dirty ways to turn your lover on? Here are five tips to tempting and teasing your man that will get your lover wondering if you’ve been replaced by a body snatching kinky minx!

Mark Your Territory – Pick up some bright red lipstick – the kind you only see on Greta Garbot wannabes and ladies in cosmetics ads – and wear it on your night out. Reapply it right before you get home, and lay a trail of your painted kisses up and down his body. It’ll leave your kiss marks on his body that will more than likely be there the next morning to remind him how your mind blowing night began.

Change Up Your Hair Style – We don’t mean the hair that’s growing on your head. Have you been keeping a landing strip down there for a while? Maybe you’ve got a fuller bush? Change it up! For those who usually go completely bare, let a little grow back in to keep your man on his toes. Keep a bit of hair there? Get out the shaving cream and razors and make yourself hair free for a night of passion. If you’re a bit reluctant about adjusting to a new pubic hair style for one night only, there are also temporary gem tattoos that you can buy especially for that part of the body!

Chuck Out The Thong – Skimpy underwear has been on its way out for a while now. What is flying off the lingerie store shelves in more recent times have been boy shorts. The main reason? They make your butt look amazing! The seam running down the middle of most boy shorts pulls in the fabric to accentuate your assets in the back, and give a well fueled imagination something more to think about in the front.

Give Him A Head’s Up – While you may think that a titillating surprise is the way to go for Valentine’s Day, your guy may enjoy it even more if you give him a head’s up to your evening plans with a downright dirty set of sexts. Send him a series of texts describing what you plan on doing to him that night, and send him a few obvious hints of what you’d love him to do to you.

Keep It Familiar and Comfortable – Now’s not the time to book the two of you into a four star restaurant for an overpriced and stuffy meal. If you’re heading out for a Valentine’s Day date, keep it familiar and comfortable. You’ll be more inclined to get extra naughty in public if you aren’t worried about what the snooty wait staff think. At the very least, you’ll know the best corners to escape to for a kiss…or more!

Leave A Path To The Bedroom – Once you finally do make it back to your place for the night, don’t wait until you get to the bedroom to strip down. Start right in the doorway and leave a path of your clothes all through the house until you make it to your bed. You may be distracted along the way and need to make a few stops…but is that necessarily a bad thing?


Breast Massage A Part of Breast Cancer Awareness

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I know what you’re saying, “Dr. Kat are you trying to create a cheap thrill out of a monthly breast exam?” My answer is yes and no. While yes, I do believe self breast exams and even getting your partner in on the action can be a nice compliment to your overall breast care (nothing substitutes how a woman knows her own body and follow up with her medical care), there are actual proponents out there that say breast massage can actually keep your breasts healthy.

Dr. Ben Johnson, of the The Secret fame, is an expert in breast health, author of the book The Secret of Health: Breast Wisdom and the founder of the International Cancer Foundation. He has worked to merge traditional and complimentary perspectives when it comes to taking care of your tatas. Dr. Johnson believes that maintaining breast circulation is critical in breast health.

Dr. Johnson reminds us that circulation gets oxygen to the all important breast tissue. Low oxygen has been related to cancer on a physiological level. Dr. Johnson’s blog gives these directions: “when you go home, take your bra off and massage your breast. Put your hands on your chest and rotate in a circular motion a few times with the tips of your fingers. Then go the other direction. Even while the bra is on you can do this. Find a private place while you’re at work or while you’re out of the home and do this three or four times a day.”


Make first date amazingly unforgettable

If you’re excitedly looking forward to your first date with a new partner, the last words you want to hear are “dinner and a movie”. First dates are a chance to really get to know one another, not to mention impress your new partner with your creativity and original thinking. For anyone looking for fun, creative and exciting first date ideas, here are some simple tips on how to plan an unforgettable first date.

Take a fresh approach on an old idea
Dinner dates, popcorn and a movie. Old-fashioned dates do have a lot of charm but they can start to feel a little tired and over familiar. Give old-fashioned dates a makeover with a fresh take and a fun, new vibe.

Instead of heading to your local cinema, make the most of the great outdoors and choose one of the many open-air parks.

Try a new cuisine
First dates are nerve wracking experiences at the best of times. So, why not take the opportunity to try something completely new together? Most cities have a multicultural and diverse restaurant scene, with everything from Korean to Japanese, Modern Canadian to German. Agree on a cuisine that you’re both completely new to and try your hand at a new dining style, whether it involves tricky chopsticks or the cheeky antics of a night at teppanyaki.

Take a doggie date
Both have pets? Then why not make the most of your beautiful natural surroundings and bring your animals along? This is a great way to get you out of the stuffy, same old restaurants. Plus, spending time with a person and their pets can tell you a lot about their personality.

If you’re a pet lover and are looking to find singles who share your interests, online dating is a great place to start. Relationship sites like http://www.eharmony.ca allow you to get to know people in your area, so you can organise a fun date with your pets ASAP. To find out more about whether eHarmony is the right online dating site for you, why not visit the eHarmony Google+ Page today to learn more about it?

Be a tourist in your own city
Sometimes when you spend all of your time in the same place, it’s easy to overlook the fascinating history and sites your home has to offer. A great first date idea is to share a self-guided walking tour around your hometown or a nearby destination. From the beautiful the art galleries of Your area to antique shops there’s much to love about a date on your own doorstep.

What ever you choose simply make it memorable.

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